lauralh | folly

I found this to be pretty interesting, which is to say, often true:

Top Five Frustrations Women Express about Men They've Begun to Date:

1. Men think that the early stage of a relationship (the point at which routine sex can be gotten with the lowest possible commitment of time, resources, and personal energy) is a fine place for the relationship to remain indefinitely.

2. A man tends to overestimate his importance to a woman at the moment when she asks him "to talk about where the relationship is going." Men often assume that the woman has fallen in love with him when in fact she might only want some information.

3. Men overrate the value of their affection--regardless of its quality or consistency. That is, men always assume that a fraction of their attention is better than none at all.

4. Men's tendency toward outsized conceit (see #2 and #3) combined with the inability to articulate their intentions reveals them to be the most reprehensible of cowards. Shouldn't that grand self-conception carry with it some responsibility for treating the relationship with candor, clarity, and honor?

5. Men often ride along in relationships with one hand on the door handle. This fearfulness of momentum leads them to perform all manner of foolishness, including dangerous stuntman-like dives out of high-speed romances as well as more comical leaps out of relationships that have yet to leave the driveway.