argh

[lauralh]

why can't people just be rational and logical in their love lives? or at least honest. this is not a movie, this is real life dammit.

there are at least two relationship lies that I don't believe:

one: I'm just not ready for a serious relationship right now.

this either means "... with you." or "I want to fuck around some more" or both.

two: I don't really see myself falling in love with you, because there's not the "spark".

riiiight. because you can totally 100% predict the future. well, gee, if you aren't open to it, then wow, maybe it won't happen. this is just one of those things that annoys me because it shows the person saying it is a romantic. Like, ok, you can't fall in love with someone because they are too fat or too stupid or too ugly or too annoying, that's fine.

another "favorite" is "I don't want to ruin our friendship". this basically means "I don't find you sexually attractive."

how about you guys?

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[perich.livejournal.com]

I'm reminded of an episode of the once-hilarious "Malcolm in the Middle" where the mom, Lois, has to confront the fact that her manager at the supermarket has an irreconcilable crush on her. Let's presume his name is Wally, since I've forgotten it.

"Wally, dear Wally," she says. "I'm so sorry you said that, because now I have to break your heart in the harshest way possible. I have to make absolutely sure that you never, under any circumstances, suspect that you and I have a chance together. And it's going to hurt. But here we go."

(I'm paraphrasing, but that's how it went)

I can't say that I would prefer someone shatter my dreams one time, as opposed to being vague enough at the moment of crisis to give me naive hopes for months and months. But it would make for interesting variety.