ok, so, i'm making fun of all my friends and their stupid relationship tricks*

[lauralh]

long distance "relationships" and polyamory

but really i wonder, is that it?

is that all life and love has to offer?

to me it's all settling for less than I (or they) deserve...

but is that maybe the actual best we can do?

that thought disgusts me.

but they all seem pretty satisfied.

(and even though I'm so very entertaining, I'm sleeping alone tonight.
because tonight is just like any other night.)

and then, they showed the Sex and the City pilot tonight. it's pretty good although the Mr. Big character is terribly dopey. Miranda on the other hand is brilliant and my hero. but the questions brought up were similar. although that focused on shallow casual sex being the end-all. with the last lines of the episode being:

have you ever been in love?
abso-fucking-lutely.

does that happen? did I pass my soulmate on the street and not notice him, because his hair wasn't brushed? if i'd dropped my purse would he have picked it up?

not that I believe in soulmates, just compatibility. the only people I'm compatible with won't date me. so i guess we aren't so compatible, eh?

Comments

[aefirpo.livejournal.com]

What the fuck is wrong with you? What are you, some kind of goddamn second-rate philosophy-slash-art-slash-drama student? When the hell did you go so goddamn emo on me?

I can't believe I'm actually sitting at your livejournal reading this crap. What'd you do, mix valium and booze? If not, you probably should. Yeah, I'd support that.

Where the fuck is your mind? Who are you and what have you done with Laural, you angsty prick?

[pamc.livejournal.com]

Er... why so venomous?

Sounds like an existential crisis...

[pamc.livejournal.com]

Are you perhaps struggling to find purpose in your life?

Re: Sounds like an existential crisis...

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

this is more a romantical crisis.

Re: Sounds like an existential crisis...

[pamc.livejournal.com]

Hmmm... well then, on that front: take care of you. Then all the other pieces will fall into place. Love is worth it, even if it sucks in the meantime.

Re: Sounds like an existential crisis...

[sarahbliss.livejournal.com]

Love is not worth it if it sucks in the meantime.

Re: Sounds like an existential crisis...

[ladytabitha.livejournal.com]

I disagree, but I imagine it depends on your definition of "sucks".

Re: Sounds like an existential crisis...

[pamc.livejournal.com]

Depends on why it sucks, but I believe it's worth it.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

i always take care of me, but then I get bored and horny.

[pamc.livejournal.com]

Boredom is dangerous in my case. For the horniness, there's always "Black & Decker", so to speak...

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

that's fine till it bores me :)

[pamc.livejournal.com]

Hmmm... not into the kinkier stuff at all, are you? That often helps me get satisfaction without it being sexual or within the confines of a relationship...

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

Er, as I have no idea what you're referring to, I guess not.

[pamc.livejournal.com]

*laugh* Okay... nevermind then.

Hmmm... Wish I knew someone I could hook you up with, but I don't know anyone who's available right now.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

eh, I have a friend visiting this weekend so at least one of my problems will be taken care of. Thanks tho :)

[sarahbliss.livejournal.com]

I am also noticing an influx of LD relationships and polyamory, but the long-distance relationships bug me more. All the time people are saying as justification- "well we talk online/on the phone all the time, for hours, so we know each other pretty well." My ex, Steve, said "I love you" to a girl he knew only via phone/chat, before they even met. A week before they decide to meet in real life (they live in different states), she tells him she isn't the person in the pics she sent him, that she is actually black. Not that there's anything wrong with that beyond lying about it, but please, if she can fool you for six months into thinking she is caucasian with red hair, you must not know each other all that well.


As for Sex and the City, Mr. Big is annoying and wouldn't last too long with me. I just wouldn't put up with him. Thought it has become apparent that he is who Carrie is going to end up marrying in the season finale next year.

Love shmuv. Who needs it.

[thesadpunk.livejournal.com]

Don't you think it's more about the person than the circumstance? Anyone can lie about who they are- it doesn't matter how close or how far away you are.

[sarahbliss.livejournal.com]

Definitely. But it's easier to get away with if you and your s.o. reside in different parts of the country, I think.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

or see each other once a week or less.

[thesadpunk.livejournal.com]

I agree that it is easier to get away with something due to distance. But once again, I think this comes back to the individual- if you're trying to get away with something, should you really be in a committed relationship in the first place?

[harryh.livejournal.com]

> Thought it has become apparent that he is who > Carrie is going to end up marrying in the
> season finale next year.

Not true.

You don't think so?

[sarahbliss.livejournal.com]

I certainly hope she doesn't.

I know all the good TV gossip

[harryh.livejournal.com]

I could tell you.
But then I'd have to kill you.

[scarlett723.livejournal.com]

so what is your definition of ldr anyway? 20 miles? 50 miles? 100 miles?

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

well i suppose it depends. it's more a time issue than a distance issue. if it takes an hour to drive to see someone, that's enough of a hassle that it probably won't happen very often. if you're loaded and can hop on the Concord* every other day, it doesn't matter how far away you live I guess.

* i know the concord is gone.

[chris.livejournal.com]

I've only seen a LD relationship work where it was considerably prestablished (like years), the seperation was temporary, and they still visited about every couple of weeks. Even then, it was probably an exception. I think that actually being with someone is kind of the point of a relationship.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

yeah, my LDR "worked" in the same exact way, but I moved in with my boyfriend and we broke up a year later anyway. The actual LDR part of it was incredibly stupid just like the online-only ones.

[starfyer.livejournal.com]

My boy lives a 2 hour drive north. One or the other of us makes that drive every weekend.

Pain in the ass? Hell yeah. Worth it? Hell yeah.

[meekgirl.livejournal.com]

ldrs are depressing.
some people prefer polyamory though. just saying.

(I wouldn't have have much tolerance for people who claim to "prefer" ldrs. does anyone claim that, though??)+

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

well, when my male friends say "there's no one in this town that interests me" - that's the feeling I get.

Although polyamory does seem the lesser of two evils, it's still evil to me.

i just realized i read this the wrong way

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

My two friends who are in poly relationships would definitely prefer them to be monogamous, I think. They're both guys, and the girls are the ones who have other boyfriends. They're just coping by dating other people. Or claiming to.

[vileinfestation.livejournal.com]

Long distance relationships are evil.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

no shit, that's why it's my next Stupid Relationship Trick.