ok so i'm just gonna post this

I don't really agree with most of it, but go ahead and tell me what you think... from salon.com

"No intercourse, please -- we're enlightened"
Sensitive, feminized and resentful, today's young men no longer have the sexual authority to please a woman -- no matter how much oral sex they perform.

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By Ann Marlowe

Oct. 1, 2003 | It was after seeing "Thirteen" and noticing the display rack of handcuffs at Sam Goody on Sixth
Avenue that it hit me: The polymorphously perverse, gender-is-just-a-construct future that radical feminists and academics used to dream of has actually arrived. Men no longer have any authority, either in their own eyes or in women's, the genders are distinguished socially mainly by stuff they buy, and eroticism has fled from the bedroom to the store. It's sexier for most of us to go shopping than to make love, and so we do. As a friend said when I told her I'd spent much of the weekend in bed with a man, "Who has time for that? The weekend is the only chance I have to do my shopping."
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ok...

The next guy who is "ashamed" of his gender or "makes a public apology" for his gender, may as well just hand me a knife so I can cut his balls off. I mean clearly he's not using them.

Ladies: do you ever hear of something stupid a woman does and feel like you need to apologize for her? I sure as hell don't.

I just don't understand it. You were born either one way or another, it wasn't something you had any control over. Do guys just take "brotherhood" so seriously they feel guilty for bad things other men do? Or are they just trying to impress women this way? If the latter I'm going to excuse it briefly and just yell at women who fall for it.

cos i want to

so I said:

Do guys just take "brotherhood" so seriously they feel guilty for bad things other men do? Or are they just trying to impress women this way? If the latter I'm going to excuse it briefly and just yell at women who fall for it.

and katyakoshka said:

The latter. I'll join the others saying it's a "look, see, I'm a sensitive guy" ploy to get in women's pants.

and billyfleetwood said:

are you hypothesizing that these guys are regular macho pinheads, who are merely pretending to be sensitive to get laid? Sounds farfetched to me. I think there really is an entire generation of men who truly do believe that masculinity is a bad thing. Why do they believe this? because women have been screaming it from the rooftops for the past 30 odd years. What noone told these guys is that women rarely say what they actually mean.

"I just want to be listened to", really means, "I just want to talk more, I don't really expect you to listen, because if you did, I wouldn't have anything to complain to my girlfriends about"

But these guys never got that memo, and yeah they're out there, emoting and being supportive, and listening and shit. and not getting ANY pussy. None. I've met these guys. They're the ones who will be in a room full of men, No women for miles in any direction, and they will claim they don't like strip clubs....

Whatever, dude. More lapdances for me. If you've internalized your masculine guilt to the point that you can't admit to a room full of men that strip clubs are awesome? Really really super awesome!!! That ain't a ruse, that's mental illness.

That's why it's implausible that the sensitive guy angle would be adopted as a booty-gatherin' strategy. It only works on closet lesbians,and everyone involved is usually confused and miserable. I think any guy who was trying to devise a ploy to get into a woman's pants would probably come up with something way easier and with a higher rate of success. Like getting them drunk and then ignoring them. That's like opening a can of Lipton's instant booty and adding water.

p.s. yes, men do exhibit a certain amount of brotherhood.I know it's hard for women to understand, what with their irrational blind hatred for all other members of their own gender, but the concept of bro-hood does exist, and actually comes in handy when the Germans get a little uppity, as they're wont to do every once in a while. Yeah Swarzenegger, don't think we won't be watching your ass. One day his boots are gonna get a little too shiny, and the people of california are gonna start thinking long and hard about Gary Coleman's leadership abilities.And I don't wanna hear that "But he's Austrian" crap. Austria is like the Nazi version of the MTV Beach house.

Sorry, I got a little off topic there.