reading my friends list and wondering...

[lauralh]

[Poll #385095]

edit: I am talking Role-Playing here, people! what's wrong with you?

Comments

[victory-goddess.livejournal.com]

Dude, after seeing my old roommie date a manic depressive, I don't think there's anything worse.

[perich.livejournal.com]

I've dated both.

[drownedinink.livejournal.com]

I had to say gamer, because I'm manic depressive (albeit a mild case) and if there's anything more tragic than one manic depressive, it's two of them trying to have a functioning relationship.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

clearly you have had little interaction with gamers.

[victory-goddess.livejournal.com]

And too much with extreme cases of manic depressives, fair enough.

the advancements in pharmocology these days are truly amazing

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

HAVE FUN WITH THE DUNGEON MASTER!

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

You are one!!!

[trixiefirecat.livejournal.com]

yeah, but there's still a chance that you might connect on some dork level. manic depressives [if grossly untreated] are largely islands. even 2 of them could have a terrible time together. and if you're not one and you get involved with one ... well, good luck.

[perich.livejournal.com]

And, if I can ask this without it sounding odd, would you rather date me or a manic-depressive?

who needs luck?

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

when you have shrinks and pills.

[harryh.livejournal.com]

All other things being equal, both sound unapealing. Is either one of them hot?

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

See, I'm already dating one.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

Yeah, they are both hot. And the bipolar takes medication.

[harryh.livejournal.com]

*shrug*

I'll go with the bipolar one then. Maybe I can just be a cold hearted bastard and ignore them when they're to depressed to be around.

[perich.livejournal.com]

And I'm already dating a gamer.

So I think we're just going to eternally disagree on this one here.

Re: who needs luck?

[victory-goddess.livejournal.com]

I guess it depends really, the manics I've known, even medicated, were hell to deal with.

[bewing.livejournal.com]

Oh, yeah, go and make it REALLY hard, why don't ya? ;-)

Hell, I'd date both. The manic-depressives are sure fun when they're in their manic stages. So that would probably be an off-and-on thing. Or short term.

Gaming doesn't last forever. People move on to other interests (after a decade or two!). And gamers are also very low maintenance. If you don't have time for them for a day, or a week, they certainly can always find "something" to do to keep themselves amused, eh? I'd probably aim for an LTR with the gamer.

[alicetiara.livejournal.com]

After dating a suicidal, unmedicated manic-depressive who later killed herself, excuse me if I'd prefer a well-adjusted complete geek to someone completely unstable who made my life a living hell. Even considering medication, therapy, et cetera, the risk is too much. Never again.

[ravenword.livejournal.com]

Here I have to presume that while both would probably spend some portion of their time in a state that I wouldn't like to be a part of (that is, being a total geek loser or being in a manic/depressive episode), the gamer episodes would be more predictable and avoidable. I'd rather have a SO who spent one or two nights a week doing dorky shit with his dorky friends than one who had less frequent but more upsetting issues that I'd be forced to deal with. I mean, if we're saying that both have plenty of good qualities, I'm going under the assumption that when he's not in his mom's basement attacking the darkness, the gamer is an okay guy to hang with.

That being said, you fall for who you fall for, and it's never a case of all other things being equal. Being bipolar even while medicated can be very hard, but I don't think it has to be a deal-breaker; it wouldn't necessarily be one for me.

Re: who needs luck?

[trixiefirecat.livejournal.com]

ha! that's still a whole lotta luck at work, baby.

[andrewpants.livejournal.com]

i love how everyone generalizes manic depression with suicide, when bipolar 1 has a very low instance of suicide amongst patients with the diagnosis.

that said, give me a manic depressive any day, but i refuse to associate with gamers.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

velvet doesn't really care who knows about his "condition", but I guess I'm not so open about it. Or maybe people would still be as hostile as they are if they knew I was in fact currently dating a manic-depressive person. It's not bad, but sure neither is gaming REALLY. I was just trying to make A FUNNAY!

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

I think only the person who actually dealt with a bipolar killing herself did that, but otherwise, yeah. word to that.

[trixiefirecat.livejournal.com]

i am related to and friends with plenty of them, and think they're fine friends but i personally know i wouldn't do well with one as a partner. i think the difference is whether or not they consider their conditions as a daily challenge and whether or not they get treated. i've seen a fair amount of them stay conscious of their mood swings and forego medication [my father is like this, not drinking has helped tremendously] but it's hard to say what that's like for the people around the bi-polar. what concerns me are the ones who righteously keep any coping mechanisms at bay and create all types of destruction in the lives of the people around them. i mean, we only put as much trouble within arms reach as we choose to deal with, but you know. it can wreak havoc.

how does velvet deal with his condition?

[sanpaku.livejournal.com]

What an excellent poll. Evil, indeed.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

Celexa and Depakote.

[crumblingchaos.livejournal.com]

At least there's medication for a manic-depressive.

There is no cure for evercrack.

[trixiefirecat.livejournal.com]

well then he's probably doing pretty well, i imagine.

[duckierose.livejournal.com]

I don't think I'm emotionally stable enough to date either.

Plus, I'd never want to admit to anyone I was dating a gamer.

The last manic depressive I dated gave me more issues than I'd ever have, or likely ever will have again.

I choose door number three.

(though, I voted Gamer. I don't know why)

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

yeah he's completely bearable. :)

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

also I think no one associates "taking medication for the problem" with bipolar? I mean, I sure as hell wouldn't date a diabetic who didn't medicate.

[mattholland.livejournal.com]

stable people aren't as good in bed. and manic episodes are great entertainment! what in the hell does a gamer have to offer?

[bitchness.livejournal.com]

I am manic depressive, not sure if it would be really bright to add another one to my dysfunction. But... gamers... that's a tough choice man.

[chris.livejournal.com]

so if the bi-polor person is medicated, does the gamer actually game regularly?

if you have to ask

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

yes, at least once a month.

[lemur68.livejournal.com]

I didn't date her, but I knew a girl who was both. RUN

[avphibes.livejournal.com]

OMG I can't deal with this question!

I'm sitting here imagining the gun to my head and still I can't pick one!

If the Manic Depressive was on medication, I would take him, because at least he recognizes that he has a problem.

[andrewx.livejournal.com]

manic depression has the potential to be entertaining at least, even if it's a sort of intense or tragic. as opposed to a gamer, who's problem is talking too much about all the cool items his character scored in this dungeon last night or some shit, which is hella boring. I'd, personally, rather be with someone who's unstable over someone who's boring any day.

[katyakoshka.livejournal.com]

When I think of gamers, I think of people who don't just occasionally RPG, but live it. They go to cons, they can write detailed emails or posts about what they're doing in their latest campaigns, etc. While they aren't bad as friends, I wouldn't date one again. I mean, a hs teacher who looks to summer vacation as "Woo-hoo, time to be the DM and plan campaigns!"... leery. He spent the first week of his time off like that. The game was the center of the interaction. In contrast, another ex... gaming = excuse for drinking beer while bullshitting about esoterica (humanities geeks).

As for manic-depressives -- hello, medication and therapy.

[gfrancie.livejournal.com]

Can I become a lesbian instead?

[xol0tl.livejournal.com]

I've been in a relationship with someone who was manic-depressive, but challenging as that can be, I can easily say with no hesitation that I'd take that over a gamer any day.

[a-muse-d.livejournal.com]

i lived with and tried to have a relationship with a gamer for... 7 months, i think... the end of that relationship is a bit fuzzy..


NEVER A-FUCKING-GAIN.

not to the pathetic degree that he was in front of the puter playing DAoC. FUCK no.

i'm pretty manic-depressive, myself. i find others along the same lines more interesting.

[ernunnos.livejournal.com]

One of my friends is dating a gamer. She games so much she never wants to go out, doesn't sleep, nearly lost her job, wants to quit and have him support her so she can game without any interruption.

With a manic-depressive you at least get manic sex.

Since you asked, yes!

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

Although the gaming incidence rate in women is low, the manic-depression rate is high.

[sarahbliss.livejournal.com]

Werd.

Re: Since you asked, yes!

[gfrancie.livejournal.com]

How about neither. I would rather be a nun.

I used to go with a guy who couldn't hang out with me on Saturdays during the day because he was too busy playing D&D.