I didn't have all that many female friends growing up, though the ones I did have were fellow non-girly-girl nerdish types, and some of them were longer-term friends. I've known gals whose friendships were split down the middle male-female, and with tomboyish tendencies, who are victimy, wedding-obsessive, and catty-gossipy-baskstabby-histrionic. It's only been in college and post-college that I have developed long-standing friendships with both women and men, as I tend to be a reclusive loner sort (and was moreso in the past).
I'd say that the development into or away from a stereotyped gender role is more in line with one's general conformity.
Those who have no strong personality traits differing from the norm will either be queen-bee social tyrants (if they do have strengths in the gender norm) or followers of varying degrees.
Girls who do differ, innately and as a result of their parents' influence, will not be as likely to be drawn into the mainstream-gender-role-forming crowd, and instead gravitate towards like non-conforming, independent, non-mold-fitting sorts.
And, if the personality of a girl is abrasive or ill-fitting with the group, despite her innate mainstream tendencies, she'll become part of the outside, though other influences (too much Sweet Valley High and watching of soaps, parents, etc.) will still nurture that propensity for the stereotype/role.
Of the two groups, the outsider one is more likely to include girls who are also friends with guys, because the clique-mentality isn't as strong.
The same goes for guys, most likely; those who conform to the mainstream roles for men tend to form their own networks of friends, while those who don't likewise tend to shy away from those networks (and are more likely to have friendships with both sexes).
Some people of both sexes seem play along with the dominant roles sometimes, throughout highschool, for instance, and then completely "change" afterwards (especially in college) -- find a realm where they can engage in the mainstream traits while also being able to exhibit non-norm tendencies or interests.
It's probably not gender specific, and I'd bet there's a combination of self-selection and external pressure (parental/familial, social) that determines the whole gender issue.
Damn. That's a fucking dissertation or some shit. *laugh*
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Date: 2004-05-27 04:03 pm (UTC)I'd say that the development into or away from a stereotyped gender role is more in line with one's general conformity.
Those who have no strong personality traits differing from the norm will either be queen-bee social tyrants (if they do have strengths in the gender norm) or followers of varying degrees.
Girls who do differ, innately and as a result of their parents' influence, will not be as likely to be drawn into the mainstream-gender-role-forming crowd, and instead gravitate towards like non-conforming, independent, non-mold-fitting sorts.
And, if the personality of a girl is abrasive or ill-fitting with the group, despite her innate mainstream tendencies, she'll become part of the outside, though other influences (too much Sweet Valley High and watching of soaps, parents, etc.) will still nurture that propensity for the stereotype/role.
Of the two groups, the outsider one is more likely to include girls who are also friends with guys, because the clique-mentality isn't as strong.
The same goes for guys, most likely; those who conform to the mainstream roles for men tend to form their own networks of friends, while those who don't likewise tend to shy away from those networks (and are more likely to have friendships with both sexes).
Some people of both sexes seem play along with the dominant roles sometimes, throughout highschool, for instance, and then completely "change" afterwards (especially in college) -- find a realm where they can engage in the mainstream traits while also being able to exhibit non-norm tendencies or interests.
It's probably not gender specific, and I'd bet there's a combination of self-selection and external pressure (parental/familial, social) that determines the whole gender issue.
Damn. That's a fucking dissertation or some shit. *laugh*