a few topics of interest (to me)
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lauralhPie and Cake
Originally some sort of stupid debate on PenIsMightier and JimbosWorld, I took the "have your cake and eat it too" metaphor a step further in one of my "Stupid Relationship Tricks" rants. "[I]f you'd played your cards right, you could have your cake, eat it, and find some goddamned pie to go along with it... why do you hate pie so much?" So yeah obviously "cake" is relationship quality and "pie" is hookup quality.
Good Ladder and Friends Ladder
I discovered Ladder Theory about a year ago, and incorporated the phraseology into my relationship conversations. Basically I would just rank guys according to where on the "good ladder" they fell. Hence the sentence, "He's basically top-rung material," or "Well he's on the good ladder, but only if I were drunk," or "after Thursday he slid way up the good ladder."
Don't Ask, Don't Tell
When I got back into the Dating Game, Steve warned me that I couldn't assume that the boys I was dating weren't dating other people. Although you can occasionally tell these things, like when they talk to you into the wee hours of the night, every night. Some of the boys actually volunteered the information, some of them didn't. Having gone both ways, I prefer to play it like gays in the military now. Some may claim this is "game-playing," but I've noticed that if you define rules too early on, lots of people don't want to bother. To paraphrase Madeline Kahn, "Complete honesty in relationships is as improbable as sex after marriage."
Huh, this article about "quiet dating" is kind of interesting. They just need to carry on the concept to job interviews, I think.
Originally some sort of stupid debate on PenIsMightier and JimbosWorld, I took the "have your cake and eat it too" metaphor a step further in one of my "Stupid Relationship Tricks" rants. "[I]f you'd played your cards right, you could have your cake, eat it, and find some goddamned pie to go along with it... why do you hate pie so much?" So yeah obviously "cake" is relationship quality and "pie" is hookup quality.
Good Ladder and Friends Ladder
I discovered Ladder Theory about a year ago, and incorporated the phraseology into my relationship conversations. Basically I would just rank guys according to where on the "good ladder" they fell. Hence the sentence, "He's basically top-rung material," or "Well he's on the good ladder, but only if I were drunk," or "after Thursday he slid way up the good ladder."
Don't Ask, Don't Tell
When I got back into the Dating Game, Steve warned me that I couldn't assume that the boys I was dating weren't dating other people. Although you can occasionally tell these things, like when they talk to you into the wee hours of the night, every night. Some of the boys actually volunteered the information, some of them didn't. Having gone both ways, I prefer to play it like gays in the military now. Some may claim this is "game-playing," but I've noticed that if you define rules too early on, lots of people don't want to bother. To paraphrase Madeline Kahn, "Complete honesty in relationships is as improbable as sex after marriage."
Huh, this article about "quiet dating" is kind of interesting. They just need to carry on the concept to job interviews, I think.
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Date: 2003-11-19 09:03 pm (UTC)None of my male friends do. My husband would look at you like you're crazy. He doesn't even know those women. Don't take my word for it; ask him yourself.
As for your friends... I seriously doubt they want to sleep with EVERY woman. I bet I could find many women they didn't want to sleep with.
And while many people would prefer that their SOs have money, I really doubt it's a woman thing. I'd like the guy to find a man who wouldn't prefer that his woman had money.
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Date: 2003-11-19 05:57 pm (UTC)2. ERIN was being stupid yesterday, not me i swear. I'm sooo cool. Especially while drunk. hah.
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Date: 2003-11-20 06:15 am (UTC)btw
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