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[lauralh]

How can any rational human being believe in "soul mates" ? I mean there are over 6 Billion people alive right now, over 10 billion have ever lived, what are the odds that the one who was right for you a) lived at the same time as you b) was able to meet you c) and talk to you? Isn't it funny how many people met their "soul mate" at college? I MEAN WHAT ARE THE ODDS.

Steve and I have decided that the problem (for me) with all the people (boys) we know is that none of them are really funny. Joel was funny, even Nick was funny but I really don't know anyone else who's actually funny in this town. I mean most people don't even try, which is kind of terrible. Although I still have problems with dudes who are all "women don't like funny guys" when they aren't actually funny guys.

I wrote the first draft of my rant on LDRs last night, but I'm lazy and will probably not edit it. If anyone cares, comment and I'll send you a link to the first draft. Otherwise I will just post it as is I guess.

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[cpf.livejournal.com]

I don't think that people using the term soul mate seriously are rational people. And most people are somewhat irrational.

The concept of love defies rationality. Beyond safety and reproduction, relationships are irrational.

You say you want a funny guy, how is that rational? You want humor in your life. Mise well come from your boy toy.

Ditto for the soul mate crowd, except replace humor with new age flakiness.

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[das-prompt.livejournal.com]

Not arguing here, as I mostly agree. I would say, however, that the idea of soul mates can't really be judged by simple probablity. There's an implied notion of some greater power at work, not unlike the concepts of "miracles" or whatever.

Throwing that crap out the window, if you look at it more like synchronicity, it starts making sense that cause and effect chains could create a situation where two people that are highly compatable just happen to be "in the right place at the right time" for each other.

That being said, I'd be happy with girl that's not too ugly, not too dumb, and likes to touch my naughty parts.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

so wait are you saying wanting to date someone who's funny is as irrational as believing in soulmates?

[eyelid.livejournal.com]

Isn't it funny how many people met their "soul mate" at college?

Almost makes you believe in G-d :)

I know, you were being sarcastic, but I'm not.

I'm sure there's someone else in the world I could be happy with other than Patrick. But I've never met anyone else who comes close. I do feel pretty unbelievably lucky.

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[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

i still like my "what if they already lived and died" argument. :)

well sure

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

I mean I had the same roommate all four years in college - which isn't quite the same thing but we got along pretty well and all. I'm sure if I'd gone to another college I wouldn't have had quite the same luck, but who knows really?

[aefirpo.livejournal.com]

The concept of soul mates isn't a New Age one you goddamn atavistic retard.

But yeah, anyway, the whole 'human beings aren't rational actors' thing is dead on. There's nothing utilitarianism or logic can do to explain why we enjoy shit. If we, and our genetic heritage, do/does follow the A->B->C line of thought, than certainly we wouldn't need any incentive like 'fun' to help us learn the skills we'd need to survive.

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[aefirpo.livejournal.com]

In defence of the poor old soul-mate there's always the possibility that maybe, just maybe(!), there's more than one person whose soul jacks into yours.

the other way

[q.livejournal.com]

Although I still have problems with dudes who are all "women don't like funny guys" when they aren't actually funny guys.

Hmmm, but do girls like funny guys when they're not being funny?

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't know...

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[chris.livejournal.com]

yeah, i always thought there were thousands of soul-mates out there for me.

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[aefirpo.livejournal.com]

only because you have no aspirations

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[chris.livejournal.com]

and here I thought I was being pessimistic

[lemur68.livejournal.com]

How can any rational human being believe in "soul mates" ? I mean there are over 6 Billion people alive right now, over 10 billion have ever lived, what are the odds that the one who was right for you a) lived at the same time as you b) was able to meet you c) and talk to you? Isn't it funny how many people met their "soul mate" at college? I MEAN WHAT ARE THE ODDS.

Exactly.

However, it's this thinking that gets people into long-distance relationships. And by "people" I mean "me."

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[lemur68.livejournal.com]

God damn that's a downer of a theory.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

try this thinking (http://www.laural.com).

[lemur68.livejournal.com]

Already viewing the lj feed, thanks. :)

[shalifi.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I tend to think that people that find their "soul mate" in high school or college just don't realize that all it means is that they're not particularly picky, and that any of a great number of people would have sufficed.

Maybe they tell themselves the soulmate thing so that they're less likely to want to cheat on their SO. It might be a good stablizing lie.

[thesadpunk.livejournal.com]

You realize if it weren't for your puerile icon, you'd be perceived as some cantankerous old hag.

I'll meet my soulmate when I become a soul.

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[discogravy.livejournal.com]

this is a central theme in a great harlan ellison short story. I personally have always thought that if you have to have everything perfect in a relationship, you're going to wait aorund a long time. No point in wasting your time being lonely (likewise, no point in taking shit for no reason).

[jimbojones.livejournal.com]

Dude, "that thinking" is like 20 pages of "I want a boyfriend, I don't have one, and therefore I hate you. All of you. Yes, that includes you - and your little dog, too."

So far you've bagged on:

1. committed relationships
2. open relationships
3. playing the field
4. committed long-distance relationships
5. open long-distance relationships

What's left? Bestiality?

I don't know...

[wanton-bliss.livejournal.com]

Greyhounds are pretty damned sterfery.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

first of all, show me where I bag on playing the field. and you know perfectly well that the "committed" relationships I'm referring to are the kind you think are stupid too.