of all the things that you've done wrong
Apr. 18th, 2003 02:30 pmFriends qotd: "I like him so much I feel like I've had ten drinks. And I've only had six!"
best post on 4/20 so far
So anyway.
I've been reading How To Succeed with Women because, well, I'm bored and my PKD books haven't gotten in yet. It's pretty funny stuff obviously. I mean it all falls under one of three categories: shit that is valid for both men and women, shit that is valid for most women, and shit that would work on me. I have to admit that I like it when guys say "Hi" to me, for example. Even if that's all they say, it's nice. What's really funny reading this book, though, is the "women are difficult, just deal with it" shit. The whole "Yes, the double standard is in place, no, it's not fair, but you want to date women, don't you? Then pay for her fucking dinner."
The thing which still astonishes me is the "If she stands you up, don't take it personally, she's just testing you" shit. I mean that's a total double standard if there ever was one. I would never ever ever stand a guy up. The closest I've come is calling a guy to tell him I wasn't gonna be there. And the whole "don't worry if she doesn't call you" crap. I first learned about this behavior from talking to Jim, and it totally blew my mind. "Wait, even if a girl says no to a date, she might still like you? What the fuck kind of insane troll logic is that?"
The other thing which amused me is the whole "planning romance" thing. I mean, not that there's anything wrong with that at all, but it still seems like a fuckload of effort to go into to get a girl to put out or like you or whatever. And what do guys get in return? I dunno, I just think things should be more equal. If I like a guy, I mean, I'm gonna put forth some effort into having a nice time with him. Actually I think it seems weird to me because I like to plan the dates. I like to be more in control of what's going on in that department. Granted, I'm also used to it because of dating total unromantic jackasses. But I'm not all that romantic myself. I dunno. I'm probably too hepped on on caffeine to make any sense. But the book goes into elaborate detail on how you should spend time making a four+ hour long "seduction date" - it just seems like so much overkill to me.
best post on 4/20 so far
So anyway.
I've been reading How To Succeed with Women because, well, I'm bored and my PKD books haven't gotten in yet. It's pretty funny stuff obviously. I mean it all falls under one of three categories: shit that is valid for both men and women, shit that is valid for most women, and shit that would work on me. I have to admit that I like it when guys say "Hi" to me, for example. Even if that's all they say, it's nice. What's really funny reading this book, though, is the "women are difficult, just deal with it" shit. The whole "Yes, the double standard is in place, no, it's not fair, but you want to date women, don't you? Then pay for her fucking dinner."
The thing which still astonishes me is the "If she stands you up, don't take it personally, she's just testing you" shit. I mean that's a total double standard if there ever was one. I would never ever ever stand a guy up. The closest I've come is calling a guy to tell him I wasn't gonna be there. And the whole "don't worry if she doesn't call you" crap. I first learned about this behavior from talking to Jim, and it totally blew my mind. "Wait, even if a girl says no to a date, she might still like you? What the fuck kind of insane troll logic is that?"
The other thing which amused me is the whole "planning romance" thing. I mean, not that there's anything wrong with that at all, but it still seems like a fuckload of effort to go into to get a girl to put out or like you or whatever. And what do guys get in return? I dunno, I just think things should be more equal. If I like a guy, I mean, I'm gonna put forth some effort into having a nice time with him. Actually I think it seems weird to me because I like to plan the dates. I like to be more in control of what's going on in that department. Granted, I'm also used to it because of dating total unromantic jackasses. But I'm not all that romantic myself. I dunno. I'm probably too hepped on on caffeine to make any sense. But the book goes into elaborate detail on how you should spend time making a four+ hour long "seduction date" - it just seems like so much overkill to me.