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[lauralh]

It's amazing how you can live somewhere for nearly a year, and in that time meet only one new person. I guess it's good that I know how to entertain myself, but at the same time I kind of miss having a life. And then when I think of having a life, the prospect scares me.

I emailed a fanfic writer whose work I love (who happens to live around here) twice, and she blew me off both times. Is it because I came across as a scary stalker? Possibly. Is it because she's just even more antisocial than I am? More likely. I don't mind meeting people as long as I know that we have something in common. And I can always talk to people about movies or The Simpsons if they're under 40.

Part of it is also that I'm satisfied a lot by my friends, even if we can only see each other a few times a year and talk over email. That's key, talking a lot. Otherwise, it's very easy to get into a spot where you only talk a few times a year, which sucks.

I have a few people from high school that are in that position with me, and I guess there's nothing I can really do about it. The friendship has been delegated to a lesser position, which I suppose is what normal people do. Hell, I did it with someone too. You grow up and become interested in different things, right? Or you don't grow up and are interested in the same things. I'm sure if my friends from college started getting married and having kids, it would be hard for me to continue the friendship.

I've never really been able to make friends, either. The other person almost always made the overtures, and then I'd reciprocate. Eventually the other person (not being a freak like me) makes other friends, whom I then latch onto. Not latch, so much. I mean you wanna be friends with your friend's friends, right? If you like one, you should like the other. But that's the only way I've ever been able to make friends.

Everyone else says you meet people at work. So now I have the new job, and my coworkers seem marginally cooler than my last set of coworkers. That's mainly because the area is cooler - of course Raleigh is going to attract people who want to settle down, and this area attracts people who want to act up. But the office is even smaller, and the people are older. I can't tell, either, if any of them do associate on a social level, but then I haven't been there that long.

Comments

[greywanderer.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean by living somewhere a year and meeting only one new person. I'm the same way. The only person I've met this past year is my housemate, S. That's one of my biggest disappointments in getting laid off. The people I was going to be working with were really cool.

[alishas.livejournal.com]

I completely identify with your fifth paragraph. I cannot remember how used to make friends. In school we were just lumped together, but now, someone has to be overtly friendly for a chance at friendship, however I'm not interesting enough to warrent a lot of energy.