THE FREEZE

[lauralh]

Now, I know I was lucky in that I moved to Seattle to a house with two guys who already had a small social network, but I really don't get the "Seattle Freeze". Probably because it fits my own natural character. Except that I would characterize people in Seattle as passive-aggressive and flakey, and I'm just withdrawn and reserved. But I'm honest about it, and this probably beats down some barriers. If I actually want to hang out with someone, I will tell them and make actual plans. I've had people flake on me, but not really that often.

Anyway, I don't know. Most of my friends are a mix of eastside-natives and total transplants. What does everyone else think?

Comments

two effective ways to make friends

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

asabass said that basically he met people via sex/trying to have sex with them, or drugs.

[iamdonte.livejournal.com]

i've never had a problem with the freeze, since i don't want to hang out with most people anyway. just 'cause i met you doesn't mean i want you callin' me up. i've got shit to do.

[jette.livejournal.com]

SF is all about big cliques of total transplants. Like, you know one person from Michigan, and suddenly you meet 20. Or, you'll meet 50 lesbians from the bible belt who won't shut up about how queer they are because they haven't really absorbed that we don't care here.

I wouldn't be surprised if Seattle was the same way, plus wherever there's a tech industry there's an Asperger's epidemic anyway.

[llarian.livejournal.com]

I've never really noticed "The Freeze", but I'm also a semi-native, so I suppose I wouldn't.

Its always been my experience that people are around when I need them, and are quite happy to leave me alone when I want them too. Seems an ideal situation.

[tyrven.livejournal.com]

I haven't noticed people being flaky so much as passive aggressive. But that may be that's because I out-flake even the flakiest of people.

Re: two effective ways to make friends

[tyrven.livejournal.com]

Well, yeah...

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

you are also a native and do not count

[tyrven.livejournal.com]

Technically, I'm from Los Angeles. But that might be splitting hairs.

[ashlin519.livejournal.com]

I think it's a bit true. I've noticed I have to work a lot harder and be a lot more aggressive if I want hang with the natives. Most of my friends from UW were from out of state

[candid.livejournal.com]

I found that, as a general rule, people in LA were much friendlier than people in Seattle.

[asiangoddess4.livejournal.com]

I concur...Just the Seattle, WA passive aggressive thing is at best flaky and I generally have to make specific plans with people and just follow through with them...this generally works best for me anyway though since I like to have more control over my schedule.

[katyakoshka.livejournal.com]

Wow. Maybe those first 6 years in Oregon really sunk in.

[chris.livejournal.com]

also being a native, that's pretty much what my experience has been too. I'm not usually at a loss for social occasions, but I dont really work very hard for them either.

[toastednut.livejournal.com]

lol