I just don't get it.

[lauralh]

Friday Poll

[Poll #571797]

feel free to elaborate in the comments. Or don't. I will post the answers later anonymously.

edit:
Among adult males 25-44 years of age, 97 percent have had sexual contact with an opposite-sex partner in their lives; 97 percent have had vaginal intercourse, 90 percent have had oral sex with a female, and 40 percent, anal sex with a female. Among women, the proportions who have had sexual contact with an opposite-sex partner were similar.
from here

Comments

[perich.livejournal.com]

Um ... I don't know. What is the deal?

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

I dunno. (http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=4813960)

[duckierose.livejournal.com]

...and what rewards they find in a life without it.

I can't even imagine one. Okay, maybe the whole STD thing, even though, hello, you can get them without penetration, so even that doesn't work. Okay, maybe no sexual contact, but that makes you a freak of nature.

[sillygwailo.livejournal.com]

Yeah, the NPR report never really dealt with adult virgins who would rather not be virgins.

[duckierose.livejournal.com]

http://technicalvirgin.com/

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

WINNAR

technical, my ass.

[ch.livejournal.com]

oh jeebus.

[xaotica.livejournal.com]

standards.

most people are so desperate for a relationship or a fuck or both that they'll get with anything that's doesn't make them want to vomit (and even some things that do.)

[xaotica.livejournal.com]

thats = that

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

I somehow have a feeling you had sex before the age of 25.

[xaotica.livejournal.com]

ah but i lack standards in all departments

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

heheheh

[xaotica.livejournal.com]

actually, i've been lucky to befriend/date/sleep with/etc some amazing people, esp in recent years.

but i def. made some exceptionally poor choices as well... esp. when i was young.

i just had to be devil's advocate because i did actually know a 25yo virgin who was not ugly or fat or stupid or pathetic. he was just really idealistic and honestly believed in love and waiting for someone he cared about.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

i mean it's a good idea in theory but having too high standards is kind of bad. Esp. because the urge for sex is so strong. I was in love with the first guy I slept with, and i thought it was kind of dumb the first time!

[sillygwailo.livejournal.com]

Our "deal" is that those of us "who become off time in regards to life transitions involving sexuality begin to feel as though they are no longer traveling the same path as their peers" (http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m2372/is_2_38/ai_79439406). That is, we didn't try to become 25+ year old virgins. We just never tried *not* to be 25+ year old virgins either.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

I get that - at least I hope most of them didn't try - I just don't get why.

[sillygwailo.livejournal.com]

What what? Why not try? For me I stopped trying when I realized I didn't know what I was doing.

[lightdenied.livejournal.com]

moved around a lot/really shy/questioned my sexual orientation

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

i've definitely noticed a trend of the last two.

[langston.livejournal.com]

I blame behavior that isn't conducive to mating. Cable TV, cinema and most especially video games have rarely if ever gotten anyone laid.

That and when you spend all your time on your ass watching a monitor, you get fat, further erode your social skills, and are exposed to a lot less people.

[chris.livejournal.com]

I was thinking more along the lines of "Linux", but yeah. the thing is, even those people aren't desirable to most of society, they still have an available pool of others like them they can get with. everybody likes to fuck, and sooner or later, if the getting is not good, most people will take what they can get.

[henry.livejournal.com]

see Buttson's "Gallery of FFXI chicks I've nailed"

[27-yo-v.livejournal.com]

The deal for me is extreme social anxiety and lack of confidence dealing with strangers in general and attractive women specifically. Until this year, I hadn't ever been on anything that could seriously be called a "date", and I've never been confident enough to pick up in bars. I'm getting better though... I've become a lot more social over the past year or 2 and have been dating, so hopefully soon :)

Hope you don't mind me posting anonymously... that statistic makes me feel 3% less pathetic. Unfortunately, it doesn't say what proportion of those men don't want sex, as opposed to can't get it.

[pootrootbeer.livejournal.com]

Well, there's "can't", and there's "don't want", and there's "could if they really made an effort but it's not a top priority", which is somewhere in between.

And that's how I still had my cherry at the age of 23.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

heh. 23.

I dunno, I hung out with this guy a lot, and he fell in love with me, and I figured "what the hell" and fell in love with him, and we had sex. It wasn't that complicated.

[infinite-hiatus.livejournal.com]

For me I guess it has to do with being in the closet for so long. I have no doubt I could have faked it with a woman at a young age if I had wanted to, but that was just never even an option for me. Then all the sudden I realize I'm still pretending to be something I'm not, and I'm in my mid 20s. Now that I'm in the process of coming out, I'm 29 and still never been kissed. And again, I have no doubt I could go slut it up with anonymous guys if I wanted to, the gay world being what it is, but again it's just not even an option for me.

But I don't spend all my time on the computer, I don't have patience for video games, and hell if I know what to do with Linux. I've never played D&D or any other role playing game. And I'm definitely not fat. I'm just a very late bloomer. :-) If I had come out when I was 17, then it would be different.

[infinite-hiatus.livejournal.com]

And I've noticed that most guys I know who did have sex for the first time after they were 25 were all gay and in the closet.