I felt that sex complicated things. And it probably did, although that was largely a factor of emotional maturity on my part. At the same time, your comment above regarding this being a strategy for marriage may also have applied: at that point, I not only agreed with the concept but valued the idea of a lifelong relationship and was much more long-term focused. Holding off on sex helped ensure that we were both looking to build a solid relationship instead of bandaging it with the temporary motivation of sex.
That said, my motives likely weren't that different than the admitted or underlying psychological interests of the person who posted about this on the thread, which only furthers the idea that this is a conflict between two "types" of people or subcultures rather than being divided amongst the sexes.
Of course, all of this makes my stomach turn right now and even admitting to these purported motives makes me a bit ill. Where I used to be a purist I'm not far more of a hedonist; I think it's a difference of living in the future vs. living in the now.
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Date: 2005-03-05 12:07 am (UTC)That said, my motives likely weren't that different than the admitted or underlying psychological interests of the person who posted about this on the thread, which only furthers the idea that this is a conflict between two "types" of people or subcultures rather than being divided amongst the sexes.
Of course, all of this makes my stomach turn right now and even admitting to these purported motives makes me a bit ill. Where I used to be a purist I'm not far more of a hedonist; I think it's a difference of living in the future vs. living in the now.