against the grain
Apr. 27th, 2004 11:03 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lauralhI know very few people that are getting married or are married or are engaged, and those people aren't really my "friends" mostly. Now granted this is partly because I don't have a million people I call friends, but also partly because we're self-selecting anti-establishment types. Or perhaps that's too strong a word, maybe anti-bourgeoise is better?
But I also have friends who are just putting things off till they're "old enough." (This is rather dependent on where one is from. Also, cough cough, how many people one has dated. The fewer, the younger "old enough" seems to be.) To a certain extent this drives me crazy because the assumption is that certain behaviors can be indulged in when young, but not when older. And to a certain extent this is true, but my belief is, if you can pay all your bills and do your job, what difference does the rest of it make?
Not that that has anything to do with anything, I do know other married people who haven't exactly settled down. Which is pleasing , but too many others just get all sucked in. Although, who knows whom one is conforming to in these cases. When your friends are all anti-establishment types, you just do what they do too.
But I also have friends who are just putting things off till they're "old enough." (This is rather dependent on where one is from. Also, cough cough, how many people one has dated. The fewer, the younger "old enough" seems to be.) To a certain extent this drives me crazy because the assumption is that certain behaviors can be indulged in when young, but not when older. And to a certain extent this is true, but my belief is, if you can pay all your bills and do your job, what difference does the rest of it make?
Not that that has anything to do with anything, I do know other married people who haven't exactly settled down. Which is pleasing , but too many others just get all sucked in. Although, who knows whom one is conforming to in these cases. When your friends are all anti-establishment types, you just do what they do too.
