Yeah, you know, After reading that article, I think I can safely say it is the most ridiculous piece of 30s thinking anti-feminism trash ever. Holy crap, seriously.
Personally, if you make all those adjustments to your life to cater to him, how could you ever be happy. I know that I would never be happy with a guy who was attracted to that sort of bullshit.
I dont think acting interested when you really are is so much the problem as much as being too sure of it. Like, I personally am always terrified when I actually might be interested in a person on a serious level. This happens all of once every 3 years or so, and usually explodes into blech, but still.
I think my point of view contrasted with thiers paints an interesting picture, though. I mean, I think that any relationship worth anything should scare the shit out of you at first and make you a little more wary, make you want to take more time to make sure what youre experiencing is genuine. It should scare you because of the danger in upsetting the delicate balance of your life, and who you are, and you priorities, and your independence, that sort of thing.
For me serious relationships are always a scary sort of tight rope walking between your independent life, and your life with them. I think the key to maintaining a succesful relationship is maintaining your independence in your life, even though you may be hopelessly devoted to Your MAN, or female for that matter.
God, and you know, going to stupid events or doing things I dont want to do for him goes almost entirely against my recent brigade for bluntness. Im not saying compromise and adjustments are bad, but Im saying that whatever a person is feeling or thinking, regardless of relationship status, and within reason, should be stated bluntly and concisely.
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Date: 2003-09-01 06:14 pm (UTC)Personally, if you make all those adjustments to your life to cater to him, how could you ever be happy. I know that I would never be happy with a guy who was attracted to that sort of bullshit.
I dont think acting interested when you really are is so much the problem as much as being too sure of it. Like, I personally am always terrified when I actually might be interested in a person on a serious level. This happens all of once every 3 years or so, and usually explodes into blech, but still.
I think my point of view contrasted with thiers paints an interesting picture, though. I mean, I think that any relationship worth anything should scare the shit out of you at first and make you a little more wary, make you want to take more time to make sure what youre experiencing is genuine. It should scare you because of the danger in upsetting the delicate balance of your life, and who you are, and you priorities, and your independence, that sort of thing.
For me serious relationships are always a scary sort of tight rope walking between your independent life, and your life with them. I think the key to maintaining a succesful relationship is maintaining your independence in your life, even though you may be hopelessly devoted to Your MAN, or female for that matter.
God, and you know, going to stupid events or doing things I dont want to do for him goes almost entirely against my recent brigade for bluntness. Im not saying compromise and adjustments are bad, but Im saying that whatever a person is feeling or thinking, regardless of relationship status, and within reason, should be stated bluntly and concisely.
But then, Im wierd and eccentric.