got it made

[lauralh]

Boudoir last night was actually pretty hopping. I was stoked. There was a band playing from 8-11 but the spillover crowd attracted a lot more people. Plus I'm thinking no clowns actually helped.

xamichee apparently keeps talking about me or to me while he's having sex. Well, at least someone is gettin' naked and thinking of me. Heyo.

So I was having a conversation about tact and rudeness, and one of the things repeated (that was rude and tactless) was "I only said those mean things to you because I don't respect you." Personally I think that's a terrible thing to say, even if it's true. There's only two excuses for saying mean things to someone. Number one is if you're angry and want to hurt them. It's not nice, ok, but it's a great polite excuse. Number two of course, is if it's funny.

hotcrab and I decided that the difference between "making love" and "fucking" basically is a sliding scale based on how much money was spent to get them into bed.

Comments

[ernunnos.livejournal.com]

"Only"? Is the person saying this of the opinion that disrespect is something others take lightly?

[perich.livejournal.com]

I've always thought that the difference between making love and fucking is whether you take your own clothes off or whether the other person takes them off for you (respectively).

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

the actual quote was more like "see, the reason I said all those mean things to you, is because I just don't respect you."

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

I've often taken my own clothes off for fucking.

Well, it sure as hell wasn't "Making Love".

I still don't get it.

[ernunnos.livejournal.com]

Because they normally say mean things to people they respect? I'm not sure what additional information this statement is intended to convey.

"The reason I'm hitting your face with my fist is because I want to cause you pain."
"Oh, thanks. That's good to know."

Anyway, it sounds like Kevin Spacey's line in Glengarry Glen Ross. But he's Kevin Spacey, and he can get away with that kind of thing. Just like Christopher Walken can be cool just ordering breakfast.

shoot the messenger

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

Don't ask me, I wasn't there.

[shalifi.livejournal.com]

I've always figured that the deciding factor between making love and fucking is the age difference.

For example, when I'm sweating and heaving over a 14 year old mexican prostitute, that's definitely fucking.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

I am in love with you.

[sarahbliss.livejournal.com]

"Making love" for me when is when the words "I love you" are uttered (and sincere) during sex. And not for the first time (in this day and age I don't know if people actually still say "I love you" for the first time during sex).

Now "I love it" has been said a lot during sex. So the word love was used...but it's still not making love.

I'm also of the opinion that making love can also be some damn good fucking, but not the other way around.

[shalifi.livejournal.com]

Sweet, we should fuck.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

are you hot?

[gfrancie.livejournal.com]

making love:you respect the person
fucking:they have a slight pulse.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

I think 90% of the time I respect the person I'm fucking, though. Just because I respect someone doesn't mean I don't want them to spank me and call me a dirty whore.

[gfrancie.livejournal.com]

A good portion of people I fucked I didn't respect them all that much.
I just wanted them to be there so I could get my brains fucked out.

While I may love someone, and we do make love, I respect them first, enough to let them spank me.


Making love is so complicated. It is much more...intellectual in a sense.

Fucking just requires basic animal instincts.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

see I've wanted guys who were really intellectual to fuck my brains out. I am simple, I guess.

[gfrancie.livejournal.com]

You can't always have that. They spend too much time intellectualizing the moment so you can't get busy.

So you find that half-way point. Where you can get someone smart to give you a good spanking without having to talk about it too much.

In otherwords....someone from Europe.

[gfrancie.livejournal.com]

But not french.

[shalifi.livejournal.com]

That depends, do you find spiky blond hair, excessive consumption of alcohol, shirts with encryption algorithms, and attending hacker conventions in Vegas hot, or geeky?

http://www.bubb.org/images/DefCon2003/07group.jpg

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

I think blond hair is stupid.

Sorry. We'll have to Make Love instead.

[shalifi.livejournal.com]

I don't remember offering you a lovemaking session!

Either you bend over and take it like a drunken choirboy, or the deal is off, sister.

[ravenword.livejournal.com]

If I cry, it's probably Making Love. Unless the spanking got too out of hand.

[xotiffany.livejournal.com]

I saw you and Sean today on 45th. I would've honked but I was too far away by the time I realized.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

Oh well, it was fun while it lasted.

[vileinfestation.livejournal.com]

Is there a difference between "having sex" and "fucking?"

On my behalf, that debate is continuing in the backwoods bars of Texas.