Sex will stay interesting as long as you stay interested. Intimacy is key to a sustainably fantastic sex life.
Love is real. Been there, done that, never entirely lost the caring.
I don't think I could ever really bring myself to go any further than very casual sex with the sort of person that would cheat on someone ("cheating" meaning that the someone doesn't know about it), and wouldn't be able even to bring myself to have casual sex or, for that matter, a little necking or meaningful flirting, with someone that was currently involved in an exclusive relationship. I don't care to be part of a deception, and I don't care to try to make a serious relationship (even an "open" one) with someone that is likely to lie to me about something important, or really at all.
On the other hand, if you want an open relationship in which everyone agrees to and abides by whatever ground rules work for all involved, more power to ya. I might even be a part of it.
While I don't have any problem with "lying" in cases of what amounts to self-defence, I don't like deception of those that haven't earned it, and even if they have I'm not too keen on deceiving them when it's unnecessary to do so. Wanting to keep a dysfunctional relationship with an abusive and jealous asshole isn't justification for cheating on him. It's perhaps justification for beating the dogshit out of him and leaving him in a perfectly straightforward, honest manner, though (or having someone else beat the shit out of him).
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Date: 2003-04-15 01:23 am (UTC)Sex will stay interesting as long as you stay interested. Intimacy is key to a sustainably fantastic sex life.
Love is real. Been there, done that, never entirely lost the caring.
I don't think I could ever really bring myself to go any further than very casual sex with the sort of person that would cheat on someone ("cheating" meaning that the someone doesn't know about it), and wouldn't be able even to bring myself to have casual sex or, for that matter, a little necking or meaningful flirting, with someone that was currently involved in an exclusive relationship. I don't care to be part of a deception, and I don't care to try to make a serious relationship (even an "open" one) with someone that is likely to lie to me about something important, or really at all.
On the other hand, if you want an open relationship in which everyone agrees to and abides by whatever ground rules work for all involved, more power to ya. I might even be a part of it.
While I don't have any problem with "lying" in cases of what amounts to self-defence, I don't like deception of those that haven't earned it, and even if they have I'm not too keen on deceiving them when it's unnecessary to do so. Wanting to keep a dysfunctional relationship with an abusive and jealous asshole isn't justification for cheating on him. It's perhaps justification for beating the dogshit out of him and leaving him in a perfectly straightforward, honest manner, though (or having someone else beat the shit out of him).
Maybe I'm old-fashioned.