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Pig Pictures. We went hunting it earlier Friday, and I wuz eatin' watermelon. Heh.

Boudoir last night was good. I was such a hit in my skanky outfit. Everyone was saying how great I looked. Egyptian Number Two was like "Jesus christ you get sexier every week, how do you do that?" He bought me a drink, and a couple other people did too. Alcohol made me cause a bit of drama, because I didn't really think I'd get such a harsh reaction, but I stood my ground without pushing too hard back, I think. I tend to back down easily because I hate confrontation - especially when the person I'm confronting is a bit of an unknown quantity in that respect - but I think I did ok this time.

But I had to have sarahbliss drive me home, which nearly sobered me up anyway, but not really. And then as soon as Steve got home I just went to bed. I believe there were people partying here till six in the morning, although I'm not positive. I kept hearing voices when I went to the bathroom. Anyway a bit of a headache now but otherwise i'm not too bad.

the first book I've read in a month

So, in an effort to fall asleep/nap I started reading The Rules, which Steve had bought a few months ago in hopes of understanding girl(s). It worked like a charm (to put me to sleep, that is, i don't think Steve is ever going to understand women). But really, the authors keep stressing that these are rules to bag a husband, and I guess they work. I mean, if you only return one phone call for every five, any guy who keeps hanging around has GOT TO BE marriage material.

But as in everything that's mostly utter crap, there's a few kernels of truth in it. They recommend, for example, not to be exclusive unless there's a ring on your finger. Which is close to how I feel. A little more extreme, granted... and also they recommend not to see a guy more than twice a week in the beginning of dating him. Also, while I think the "be busy after Wednesday" thing is extreme, I do think that keeping plans you made previous to him asking you out is good. And the whole having a life outside one guy thing, in general, is good. And don't immediately start commanding him in the bedroom. Well, they say never, but primarily they say like, first time, just let him get a feel for stuff. So to speak.

But the whole never-pay-for-dinner shit is um, yeah. "The pleasure of your company is his recompense." Um, what, so the chick not only gets free dinner but also the pleasure of HIS company? Also I seriously doubt that if you never return a guy's phone calls, that he'd fall madly in love with you. I mean hell, I'm single, maybe I'm wrong, but after a point of no phone calls being returned, I tend to think someone is ignoring me. One or two is my limit.

and yet another :but: here... I am rather annoyed at the whole male point of view that sort of takes feminism too far in this realm. I didn't create this world and I never said that the guy should never call. I mean really it should be about equal, but more or less what ends up happening is the more interested person ends up calling more. And I've gotten incredibly annoyed with the "I'm on the way to the bar, you should come" call once a week. If you chat more regularly, a spur-of-the-moment thing is perfectly acceptable, because you know the person is probably not busy. But otherwise, geezum. (According to the rules, the guy who kept doing this to me should have figured out he needed to call me more in advance, but he never did. So we stopped talking for a while, and then he randomly messaged me a couple weeks ago to do almost the same thing. One day in advance this time at least. But dayamn.)