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My Problem with Housewives
1) If a single professional woman wants her "house kept", she hires a housekeeper. If a single professional man does, he gets married.*
2) I was raised to believe that my intelligence would be quite useful in tracking the household finances and also to help my children with their homework.
3) Modern housekeeping (sans children under five) takes about four hours a day.
4) The power struggle that comes up when the man makes money and the woman doesn't is not appealing to me in any way.
5) Urban living being what it is, it's not really feasible. edit: i mean financially unless the guy is in the upper-10% bracket.
6) Accidents happen; people fall out of love, have affairs, whatever. And then you're fucked.
* observation stolen from a female lawyer
2) I was raised to believe that my intelligence would be quite useful in tracking the household finances and also to help my children with their homework.
3) Modern housekeeping (sans children under five) takes about four hours a day.
4) The power struggle that comes up when the man makes money and the woman doesn't is not appealing to me in any way.
5) Urban living being what it is, it's not really feasible. edit: i mean financially unless the guy is in the upper-10% bracket.
6) Accidents happen; people fall out of love, have affairs, whatever. And then you're fucked.
* observation stolen from a female lawyer
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Housework is, like so much labor performed by non-powerful groups, undervalued and underappreciated.
It's sort of a lose-lose though, since if you don't stay home with your children, you are seen as a bitch career woman who cares more about herself than her kids. I really think this dichotomy (martyr soccer mom vs. Sigourney Weaver in Working Girl cunt) is one of the biggest problems facing the middle-class American woman; it's like the Feminine Mystique all over again, and no matter how many books like "I Don't Know How She Does It" and all this crap, the same lies are perpectuated over and over again: women SHOULD be able to have children (and sacrifice everything for them) while having a very high-profile career and not depending on a man, and if they don't, they are lazy and selfish. No matter that we have no social services (child care being the most egregious) that would actually facilitate that becoming a reality.
I think thi
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I just got a pedicure. Gee, I sure am being shot down by the man.
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The Hand That Cleans The Kennel Rules The World
2)Contrary to popular beleif it takes vast intellect and several skills to look after finances and keep a home organized and functional.
3)Keeping the house is actually a full-time job especially with children under five and or pets. Especially when you have to stop what your doing at a moment's notice and play chase at top speed to keep a child/pet from swallowing a paperclip or safetypin. Especially when crippled by a spinal injury and osteo-arthritis.
4)In a true loving marriage there is no power struggle, especially if one is sick and can't work, and in this country my husband would have to take two full time jobs to make nearly what I make, but once you become married it's a true partnership as it was designed to be, everything including income is shared.
5)We've been urban dwellers since the beginning (going on 7 years now, and married for five and a half of those years) and neither he nor I are nowhere near the top 10% tax bracket.
6)Accidents don't happen, and men and women don't always cheat despite statistics. That what porn is for. It just simply doesn't happen when you are always in each other's company 24/7/365, devoted to each other, and have a good set of morals. Not "church morals" which are shite anyway, but behavioural ones, also being best friends first is a great asset to any marriage. In a true and loving marriage the very idea of actual sexual congress with anyone other than your wife or husband actually makes you feel really sickened no matter how sexually attractive the ho in question might be might be. Yes, people fall in and out of love with one another, it happens, but a true and real marriage weathers these storms and keeps on keepin' on. We even know French couples that have been together well over 30 years and are still madly passionately in love and lust with one another, and until very recently I thought cheating was the national pastime, it's not, hating American government is.
7) Have some tolerance, not all marriges are the same. And Housewives, as well as Househusbands deserve alot more credit and respect for who they are and what they are willing to do for each other and with each other. The only people who should have the balls (or Ovaries) to have any say about any marriage are the people involved in the marriages themselves.
Sorry to sound so cross, but I'd like to find this so-called female "lawyer" and kick her ignorant ass around the block for being such a prejudice disrespectful sad-sack...
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Re: The Hand That Cleans The Kennel Rules The World
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Peas.
SisterVanian
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But I have many of the same fears about "housekeeping as career".
I feel that we should have more part-time work options so people can accomodate their families. Both men AND women. It sucks that we're made to choose between our families and having careers.
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Ooooooooooooh. And this whole time I've been trying to figure out why the fuck anyone would get married. Suddenly it makes a LOT of sense.
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what about house HUSBANDS?
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