My Mother withdrew my two youngest siblings from school when they were nine and ten and kind of took a radical approach and let them decide what they wanted to learn. (it this whole movement called unschooling) She took kind of a leap of faith but I think it did a lot of good in the end. They are really smart kids so I think that helped. They became really independent kids and I think because of it they are less likely to freak out when they get to college. They aren't freaks who have no social life and such they have really full lives but they don't indulge in excess all that much and can take care of themselves. They are now 13 and 15 and have jobs, study things that interest them and travel when it pleases them. Maybe gliding into adult-hood is a better idea. There seems to be less angst with my brother and sister.